Pain is a part of life, right? It can be physical, emotional, and even second-hand. One type of pain isn’t easier to manage or more difficult to bear. Unfortunately, it’s not talked about nearly as much as it should be and the rose-colored glasses of Instagram don’t help. We live in a society that tells us to go to work or school when we’re sick and put our well-being to the side. Consequently, this mindset trickles into other facets of our lives and behaviors. I hope to do my part in changing that by talking about it. Continue reading for my experience with temporary pain and learning how to overcome it when it happens.
A few weeks ago, I dove deeper into my own personal health journey and I’m so glad I did. I got more positive feedback than ever before. It also reminded me that being vulnerable resonates and is worth it.
For this blog post, I’ll do the same because physical pain is a large focus. This can be anything from a headache, a flare-up of an existing illness, or something totally random. Personally, I deal with all the above and it can be challenging. Although this is nothing new, I still struggle with realizing it’s often temporary because it’s severe and debilitating. Even if you put up a good front, as I do, it’s still a day ruiner.
To overcome this, practicing mindfulness has been a huge help. It’s not always a fool-proof option. It takes a lot of dedication, energy, and willingness to fail. My form of mindfulness is taking the time to pause, reevaluate, remind myself “this too shall pass”, and make an action plan if it makes sense. I also started using a gratitude journal to keep a healthy perspective and I’ve seen a major improvement.
Often times, when I realized getting caught up in this panic, was a problem for me, I look back and wish I wouldn’t have gotten so worked up. So, I hope reading that others go through this and have found ways to overcome it is encouraging to you.
On to the next!… Emotional pain is also part of being human. It comes in many forms and stems from a number of causes. Like physical pain, emotional pain is a part of my life too. I feel things very deeply and know I’m not alone in that.
Below I dive into the top three I work through:
This can take on many forms I wasn’t aware of until it became something I needed to process over and over. Losing a family member, pet, relationship, friendship, job, or anything that once was, invites a grieving period. And, it’s important to mention, grief is different for everyone.
If I’ve learned anything it is to process these emotions as I feel them. Suppressing them is never a good idea. It’s easier said than done, but it’s possible and it takes practice. I also find relief in talking about it, writing about it, and listening to podcasts.
Have you ever heard the quote, “Not everyone has the same heart as you.”? This one sticks with me because I often hold people to high (sometimes unrealistic) expectations because of what I would do for them and who I am.
Disappointment can stem from more than just a relationship or experience with another person. The pain of disappointment can also result from unmet expectations for a particular situation or season of life.
What I’ve found to work best or at least be comforting is to rely on my faith when I feel this way. I know God has a plan for me and I’m not to lean on my own understanding. For those with different beliefs, reminding yourself disappointment is temporary and doesn’t define you is especially important.
To take disappointment a step further, frustration is a complementary emotion. Whether you’re frustrated with a person, situation, or yourself, it’s temporary. For me, I like to make the most of these negative feelings and turn them into something productive.
Make a roadmap or plan to resolve these feelings and come out better on the other side. Even taking the step to do this is progress and helps me feel better.
If you’re an empath like me, you know how difficult it can be to separate your own emotions from another person’s. Even if I’m not close with someone, I can usually pick up on their feelings and without realizing, absorb them. This has its pros and cons, but most of the time, it can be challenging.
Personally, I haven’t found a way to work through this. Most of the time I just let it pass and try to make the best decisions with what I know to better the situation.
With all pain, it’s important to remember that it’s valid. It’s easy to beat ourselves up for feeling a certain way. But, we don’t have to do that if we commit to bettering ourselves and how we manage our challenges.
Thank you for reading, and I’m so happy you’re here. Hopefully, this post, or another, help you feel seen, heard, and more understood than when you first came to messinadress.com. I plan to stick to these rambles of what I’m going through to do hopefully do some good.