bridesmaid

How many weddings have you been in so far? This October will be my fifth and I can’t wait. But, for some people, being a bridesmaid brings more stress than fun for a number of reasons. It’s usually a significant time and financial commitment, but it can also be emotional for anyone single or going through a breakup. In this blog post, I plan to share my experience as a bridesmaid when I was single and half of a recently broken-up couple.

Growing Up and Personal Growth

I was just 22 years old when I was a bridesmaid for the first time. My friends were beginning to get married and it was a reality check that we were growing up. At that time, I was in an unhealthy relationship and my friend’s new marriage made that even more clear.  

My relationship status aside, a happy relationship turning into marriage spearheaded my own personal growth. I knew this was something I dreamed for myself, and I was encouraged to embrace uncomfortable changes.

Happiness Lead to Hope 

Breaking up with someone and being the only single friend can be heavy. But, being in more weddings and seeing my closest friends find happiness gave me hope. 

It can be easy to tell yourself you’ll never find what you’re looking for as a defense mechanism. And, don’t get me wrong, I was guilty of that from time to time. I still am… For the most part, though, I was open to letting love in and was present in the joy around me. 

Hindsight is Always 20-20

Now, I’m happily engaged and have more weddings to be in and it’s a totally different experience. Looking back, I had thoughts of wishing I was in the same place as some of my friends. But, if that were the case, I can’t imagine I would have gotten all that I did out of those times.  
I experienced tremendous and necessary growth and the memories of these weddings are so happy. If only I knew then what I know now…
If this has taught me anything, it’s to be more comfortable being myself and get used to things not being as I’ve designed them to be in my mind.

Although I’m planning my own wedding, there was a time when I was the only single friend in wedding after wedding. Most ladies feel pressure from the phrase and label “always a bridesmaid, never a bride”. Me, on the other hand, thoroughly enjoyed it and look back on this season fondly. 
In sharing this experience and perspective, I hope more ladies in this position begin to lean into this part of their lives. If you can relate, or if you disagree, I’d love to hear from you. Drop a comment on this post or join the fun on Instagram.