If you’re reading this, maybe you recently moved or are planning on moving to a new city soon. In this post, I share some of the experiences I’ve had moving back and forth between Pittsburgh, PA, and Cleveland, OH. For anyone new here, I grew up in Pittsburgh and Cleveland keeps pulling me back. The Land has brought me two jobs and amazing friends. Now, my fiance and I are settled here for good. Continue reading for my perspective on the emotional roller coaster this can be and what I’ve learned.
Enjoying the Excitement and Adrenaline
My second (and final) move to Cleveland came with a ton of excitement. I was in a place in my life where I desperately needed a change and some positivity. My fiance and I moved into the cutest house and I was beginning a new job. I’ve wanted nothing more than to settle down in one place for what seemed like forever. After all, moving from apartment to apartment and driving 2.5 hours back and forth every weekend isn’t the best. I was ready to see new places, make our house a home, and meet new people.
The adrenaline with a new beginning is strong, but it’s also fleeting. We’re talking about a roller coaster of emotions here, aren’t we?
Doubting Your Decisions
Once the whirlwind of getting settled simmered and we established a routine, I had time to think. And for anyone that knows me, that’s not always a good thing. In this case, I started to miss my family and friends. And, although I always knew they would be further away, it was real now! Negative thoughts began to creep in: Did I make the right decision? Will my friends forget about me? Am I going to be OK with this, forever? Could I have made something work in Pittsburgh instead? Would that have been better? ETC…
I’ve learned this cloud of doubt is totally normal and a lot of people moving to a new city experience this. So, I consistently remind myself that everything is temporary. Including these feelings and doubts. And when I’m reassuring myself that this too shall pass, I remember why I made this decision in the first place.
Working through Anxiety and Discomfort
Do I have it all figured out or know a formula to overcome anxiety and discomfort during this phase of life? I wish. I’m still learning and growing through it every day. But, if I could offer one piece of advice, it would be to listen to yourself. Once I started doing this, I began taking calculated steps to make myself more comfortable.
So, what does that mean to me? Personally, if I’m getting anxious, I need to take the time to reset mentally and emotionally. Sometimes this means saying a prayer, taking a walk, or having a meal by myself so I can find some peace.
I strongly encourage anyone getting used to a major change to listen to themselves. Give yourself the patience to figure out what will bring some calm back into your thoughts.
Leaning on Reinforcement and a Renewed Outlook
Because this is my second move to Cleveland, I’m extremely fortunate to have the support of friends that live nearby. Not everyone can say this and I recognize that. This time around, I relied on these friends and count them twice when I’m reflecting on my blessings.
It’s important for me to remember although my home-base is farther away and changing…I’ve gained a lot by this move. I just have to lean into it rather than being afraid.
Moving Forward through These Emotions
As someone who has been challenged with anxiety and depression for years, I know this roller coaster won’t completely go away. It’s something that will always be there and I’ll have to work through. With that said, I’ve begun to embrace it rather than fight these feelings.
Instead of getting upset that I’m not totally happy all the time with this move (or anything else), I know the downhill is necessary to go back uphill again.
My goal in sharing my experience of moving to a new city is to help even one person feel validated in their feelings. Even if your journey doesn’t completely align with mine, this is a reminder that you’re not alone.
We’re all in this together and although social media can make us feel guilty or bad about our emotions – they’re totally valid. Maybe this post also helps anyone that has friends going through something similar gain a better understanding.